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WOMEN HATING WOMEN

Hello everyone, its been centuries since i last wrote a blog. Well i have been busy with other stuffs.
So today am writing about why women keep hating on each other

Is no more news that women are their own enemies, a friend told me a story about how a friend she took as a sister betrayed and lied about her with the purpose of breaking up her home, just because she was jealous of the family she has now.

A single lady  has friends and goes everywhere with them, the friends will immediately start gossiping and hating when she tells them the handsome guy she's dating has proposed marriage and he's ready to make her  his wife.

On her wedding day, they will be part of the bridal train, congratulating, dancing, and laughing with her, but they are the same women who will later go and say her wedding dress wasn't beautiful , and the food served at the reception wasn't enough and the taste was terrible, there will be some who will look for a way to sleep with the bridegroom the same night if given the chance.

After the wedding, they will be wishing her barrenness, they will call her every month to ask '' whats up? when am i going to be an aunty'' in a sweet voice without the innocent woman knowing they are mocking her.

She will finally have a child and because she knows you are a trusted friend and like a sister to her, she will

call you to help with the baby whilst she travels for an official assignment, the ''trusted friend'' will be there  in her  matrimonial home taking care of the baby and sleeping with the husband too.

Oh women! why cant we be happy for each other and stop the hating, some women have been deeply wounded by emotional attacks from women who are trusted friends.

please stop the hating and the jealousy, its demeaning and robs us of the full contribution we could make on ourselves. 

sometimes in our work places, a woman in charge determines another woman is a threat because of her looks or a competitor for her attention for the space she occupies, so she will do anything possible to keep her down or go to the extent of making her loose the job.

ladies, lets be clear, when you choose to hate someone based on their appearance, her family, the car she drives, her job etc, or simply hate someone or rob someone of an opportunity, you expose an insecurity in yourself. Men have a sense of brotherhood, they look out for one other, why cant we do the same?

lets us women stop the hating, the jealousy and celebrate one another, because we women are great and we rock!!!

thanks for reading

Love

Adiepena

Xoxo

Happy Friday

African Braids

Fried Yam and Pepper(Ghanaian Food)

Ingredients
1 medium sized yam tuber
Oil for Frying

Ingredients for the pepper
4 red peppers
2 tomatoes
1 onion
1 glove of garlic
Salt to taste
Seasoning(optional)

METHOD:
I prefer to use earthenware pot to grind the pepper, that's the traditional way.
But if you don't have the earthenware pot, you can put all the ingredient of the pepper in a blender.
Blend all together with just a little water.
You can add seasoning if you want and pour it in a bowl and set aside.

Meanwhile peel your yam and cut them into cubes, or thin strips.
Wash them and soak them in salted water

Pour oil in deep fryer or a frying Pan
Whiles the oil is heating, drain the yam pieces and pat them with absorbent paper towels.
Put the yam pieces in the heated oil one at a time, and make sure they are not over crowded in the pan.

You will know when it is done by seeing the yam pieces float to the top.
The pieces will turn from white to pale golden color
Remove from oil and put them on absorbent paper towels.
Sprinkle the fried pieces with salt.
Serve with the hot pepper.

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TRUST GOD

You can Unfriend, Unfollow or Delete

So I was thinking about something last night about friends and relationship and it occurred to me " why do people still maintain friends who stress them?
A good friend of mine was telling me about how a Facebook friend of hers has written a very rude and offensive post on her wall and that friend keeps on hurting and disrespecting her on Facebook. A site which is supposed to connect friends and make us know what's going on in each others lives. why do we have to be rude to each other?
                                       

                         
                                                                                                                                                                     You are not obligated to keep a friend who gossips, disrespects you, say hurtful words to you and belittle you any time because of politeness.
Why should you concern yourself with tiptoeing around his or her feelings and continue to absorb negativity into your life?

Sometimes out of respect we struggle with the internal conflict of not wanting to hurt anyone's feelings.... And because of our respectful nature we continue to keep following and making friends on Facebook, twitter and in life because we think it will be mean and rude to Unfollow them or unfriend them. Pls you can be nice but don't allow anyone to walk on you or make you unhappy, don't waste your time on negative people.

Why do we still keep friends who bring drama, negativity and anger to our lives?
You have to realize some friends have come to their expiry date when all that they do is make you angry, bring the worse in you all the time.
My dear, value your sense of peace, and impact positive energy to your life rather than allowing yourself to linger around friends who will always bring you down and disturb your peace.
Close your door to some people, not because of pride but because they do not longer fit into your life.

I think this is a great time of the year to ask yourself some questions about the people in your life and the kind of friends you keep in your social circles and make some changes.
                                             

 You are not obligated to keep anyone on your timeline, feed or life when all they do is bring you stress and drama! Some friends will even bring you down so they can feel better about themselves, DO NOT LET THEM... You can't control their actions and how they feel about you, but you can always control your page and your life so feel free to do so
                                               

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You CAN always Unfriend, Unfollow or Delete any person on any social media and in your life when you feel is the right thing to do to stay positive.
Thanks for Reading
Love
Adiepena
Xxx

THANKFUL FOR OUR CHILDREN

Always be thankful for the children in your life because they are a blessing from GOD. Even though parenthood is full of stress , challenges and worries, it is also rich with rewards. As a parent, there's no need to search the meaning of life or the reason for your existence because your mission on earth is clear and that is all about your children, I know is not everyone who's going to agree with me.

I remember when I was pregnant with my first child, I was totally unprepared for the love I will feel for him when he was born.
I remember always being happy when he kicks and was so surprised when I heard him having hiccups in my belly, Oh my!
I never knew I could feel such love for another human being.

And with my second pregnancy and third I have already loved them so much and has bonded with and been talking to them before they were even born. If you are a mother, I know you understand and knows how it feels to carry a child in your womb.

We always have to be thankful and grateful to God for the love we find in our children and making some of us experience the joy of motherhood.You will still feel that same love for your children even if they are not biologically yours because it isn't always by blood.

What I wasn't prepared for, though and continue to be are the little things that make my heart burst. The small actions my children do that I feel at the root of my soul. Sometimes your children will do or say something that makes you forget all your worries and bring that beautiful smile to your face, with them you are never lonely because they are our constant companions.

There are moments that your children just takes your breath away amidst all the crying and tantrums and the hard times they've given you, this shows us that we are also being loved by our children with a love that has no boundaries.
For me there's no better, stronger, no more amazing love than the love of a parent for their children, Except perhaps the love of a child for their parents. Both are worth Everything!
I am thankful for my 3 kids, what about you?
Thanks for reading.
Love
Adiepena
Xoxo

Happy Easter!!!

SEX SEX SEX!!!

                                             

So I have been writing about the S word lately, well maybe it's because my friends and I do not stop discussing about sex topics, so these are the few things we talked about when we met.

                                             
Ok, let's teach the men a few things about what we ladies like during sex, it is an emotional act for us and not just a physical need so take note.

(1)So always stimulate our minds by giving us a call a text or an email during the day to say something sexy to activate the mood.

(2)Please women are not microwaves, so we are not always ready when you are and don't think because you want sex we are always ready to serve you... NO!
   
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3)Be passionate, and always remember every woman is different, what pleases one woman may not necessarily please another, so take time to caress each part of the body as if it was the last time you will experience love making... And believe me we are really going to appreciate it very much.
We always know what we want so listen to us and do as you are told.

(3)Remember that the Clitoris is the Queen,and alot women like to be touch there so learn where it is and don't forget to give it the maximum attention it needs *wink*
And we want an Orgasm every time just the way you do so keep it in mind.
This might not be enough tips for you guys, but I know you will learn something and have enjoyed reading it.

Love
Adiepena
Xxx

Waiting For That Ring....

                                                             

So everybody around you is getting engaged! Everyday you log on Facebook and and you find out that another person is getting engaged or has posted Wedding photos... Although you are happy for them, deep down... You are thinking Ummm ANOTHER PERSON? WHEN IS MY TIME COMING???

You go to church, pray, spend time with GOD, you are living right, you are beautiful, you have a good job,you  are nice to people, you go to functions and meet men and yet you are still SINGLE?

I want to encourage you my sister, first of all, STOP comparing yourself to others and wait for your GOD appointed time which is surely going to come.
Don't be pressured by friends and relatives and just go and marry someone you do not love or going to stress you later in marriage.

Each season in your life will develop to the next one, if you are worrying non-stop about when you are going to get married, trust GOD you are sure going to get married and because human needs are insatiable, after you are married,  you are still going to need more things in your life, but be careful you get content at where you will be... Other than that, you will start worrying about having kids after just three months of marriage. You will start to think
"everybody is having kids and you don't have any kids." Then you will finally get pregnant and start comparing yourself to other pregnant women and worry about your entire pregnancy.
Then kids will finally come and you will compare your kids to everybody else's child. Do you see how this vicious cycle is? So don't compare yourself to anyone and let GOD guard you in every season of your life.

Don't let singleness make you bitter my sister, always be happy for your friends who get married, be happy for them, hug them and say congratulations whiles you pray for your turn. We get frustrated when things delay in our lives... We sometimes even gets tired, angry and bored when we wait in the queue at the bank, caught up in traffic, have to wait for your turn at the doctors office.
We all hate waiting for somethings, how much more our MARRIAGE when the biological clock is ticking? But PRAY! And wait for GODS TIME, for his TIME IS THE BEST.
Some of us has been dating men that we wish will marry us but we know deep down within us that, that MAN has zero standards and has no plans of taking you to the Altar, he will rather play with your emotions, have sex with you anytime he feels for it, make you do some domestic chores and yet he does not make you his wife.
CLEARLY, this "man" is not a husband material but because of you being single and need a man you will still be in a relationship with him... THINK!

My dear Sister am encouraging you to wait for GODS time and the the right man, your ADAM will come and change your last name and your marriage is going to glorify GOD and when you do have kids... Your husband is going to lead your household as the perfect leader, the loving husband and father.

Let's now remove the vocabulary "Am waiting for my man" and let's replace it with I TRUST GOD'S TIMING FOR EVERY AREA OF MY LIFE... Do I hear Amen!?? Lol

Now let's do some few things...
(1)Guard your heart: If Facebook is distracting you in any way, pull yourself from there a little while to think and focus about your life and future.

(2) Be happy for others: If you aren't happy about yourself, you will never be happy for anyone.
Be honest and pray to GOD that, you are jealous and bitter and TIRED of being SINGLE. Ask him to help you be a better person and grant you the favour of MARRIAGE.

(3) Eliminate the desire to compare yourself with others and don't get jealous of the ring on that sister's finger.
Focus on your work, school and your day to day schedules.
Find contentment with yourself and remember GOD loves you soo much.

 Your MARRIAGE is sure on the way! Hope you enjoyed reading                                   .

Love
Adiepena
Xxx

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